THINGS AREN'T GOING THE WAY YOU HAD HOPED? Have you run into some setbacks? Are you feeling demoralized? Does your goal now seem impossible or futile or hopeless? The all-important question is, "Were your hopes unfounded?" If so, your feeling of discouragement is legitimate and should lead you to give up on your goal and find something else to do. But if your goal is actually possible — if its achievement or fulfillment is something you are capable of — then the thoughts you have that led to your feelings of discouragement need to be updated.
How can you tell which is which? How do you know if your hopes were legitimate or not? One way is to go through the processes described in Undemoralize Yourself and Argue On Paper. The methods allow you to look at your beliefs and discover whether or not your pessimistic thoughts are legitimate.
If you discover your pessimistic thoughts are not accurate, you will immediately and naturally stop believing them, and your demoralization will immediately and naturally lift. If you discover your pessimistic thoughts are accurate, you know you can realistically give up on your goal and do something else.
Find out now: Undemoralize Yourself.
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